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“Focusing on the whole person to maximize health and wellness for life.”
Other Qualities for a Lasting Relationship
Along with the previously mentioned qualities that create a base, a foundation for lasting relationships: Compatibility, Communication, Companionship, Compassion, Cooperation, Commitment, and Cherish, there are other qualities that were frequently mentioned.
Acceptance of the differences, lots of laughs and shared goals have helped us... Lots of love for each other keeps us together, and hopefully we will have many more years together. (Irise – together for 26 years and married for 24)
I have only been with my man going on 10 years. We accept each other as is. We don’t try to change each other. I feel that if I had to change him, then I married the wrong man. (Karen – 10 yrs)
We are both happy and complete in ourselves and didn’t need each other for happiness. Instead we found each other to share our happiness in life. (Karen – 10 yrs)
I firmly believe. ….take time to pursue your own interests so you feel like you have your own life and aren’t losing yourself in doing whatever for whomever or just your partner’s interests. Time is precious, make sure you build your own passion so u stay happy and can put that vibe into your relationship… Relationships are complex but being happy personally helps give energy to making a relationship work. (Raven – 35 years)
Trust & Loyalty
We never let stupid jealousy exist. He had to work with women. I had to work with men and trust and loyalty took us through those 55 years along with the love we shared from first sight. My book is almost completed. His life has completed. (Isabelle – married for 55 years until at age 82 he succumbed to a series of strokes and had to leave me behind)
Summary for Lasting Relationships
Compatibility, communication, & companionship from the early days of dating definitely set the foundation for a lasting relationship.
Cooperation is an extremely important factor in lasting relationships as demonstrated in two different respondents, one male – one female, who shared that there were no gender roles in their relationship. Sometimes the wife worked and the husband stayed home tending the children and home, other times the woman learned the ‘fixing skills.
The final ‘C’ – cherish was demonstrated by Isabelle’s observation that in every picture of she and her husband he has his arm around her no matter who was present. And the way he spent his final years digitally preserving all their music and movies into current day formats.
Other very important qualities that these couples brought to their lasting relationships were acceptance, inner happiness, and individuality – in personality, interests, pursuits and goals.
Trust and Loyalty and leaving jealousy behind were also highly regarded necessities to these long-lasting relationships.
“The soul in a relationship is not only contained in each individual, it is also contained in the relationship itself.”
~ Thomas Moore,
SoulMates: Honoring the Mysteries of Love and Relationship
I think having a SoulFull relationship is what I’ve always desired, but didn’t know how to make that happen. Most of the time I was too naïve and dishonest with myself (and others) about why and what I wanted out of a relationship. I didn’t have the emotional or communication skills, or the ‘courage’ to BE Who I Really Am – Spirit, Limitless, Boundless Spirit – created in the image and likeness of ‘God.’
Filled with a hundred forms of fears and insecurities, I couldn’t attract or create what I desired because I didn’t have the skills or tools or belief that I was/AM ‘worthy’ of.
What has been your experience of a lasting relationship? Please share your comments here.
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